it ok to not be ready
Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready.
i wish someone had told me this kind of stuff when i was younger… ಠ_ಠ
I REALLY REALLY WANT TO POINT OUT that this person’s partner first stopped & checked in when they saw physical discomfort, not when they heard verbal discouragement. This is so so important: a good partner will be paying attention to how you’re responding and they should factor that in! “Well, you didn’t say anything” is a SHITTY NO-GOOD EXCUSE. It’s ok not to be ready and it’s ok to back out but it’s so important to pay attention to each other!
Also, if you are having sex with someone and you put out those “I’m not into this and I wanna stop” signals, and they ignore them, I highly recommend you rethink having sex with them ever again. Also just generally being around them. Because when a sexual partner sees your discomfort and doesn’t check in, they are selfish at best and dangerous at worst.
I need to say, since no one has said it so far in this particular thread of commentary: Saying “I’m sorry” is okay, but please be aware that it’s a part of internalized oppression that tells us that if we’re not sexually available to a person, then we must have wronged them. This is not true. Anyone can withdraw consent at any point and you don’t have to apologize for it because it is absolutely your right.
Adrianne Haslet-Davis dances again for the first time since the Boston terrorist attack last year.
When the bombs went off at the Boston Marathon finish line, Adrianne Haslet-Davis lost the lower half of her left leg in the explosion. She’s a ballroom dance teacher, and she assumed she would never dance again. With most prosthetics, she wouldn’t.
But Hugh Herr, of the MIT Media Lab, wanted to find a way to help her. He created a bionic limb specifically for dancers, studying the way they move and adapting the limb to fit their motion. (He explains how he did it here.)
At TED2014, Adrianne danced for the first time since the attack, wearing the bionic limb that Hugh created for her.
Hugh says, “It was 3.5 seconds between the bomb blasts in the Boston terrorist attack. In 3.5 seconds, the criminals and cowards took Adrianne off the dance floor. In 200 days, we put her back. We will not be intimidated, brought down, diminished, conquered or stopped by acts of violence.”
Amen to that, Hugh.
this is the most important gif on the INTERNET
In which Spiderman becomes the Internet.
what’s Whitney Houston’s favorite type of coordination?
i hate this i hate u
fav person of the day
because actually helping people with cosplay emergencies!
literally the most important man at supanova this year
he gave me double sided tape
what a good human being
petition to have a designated Captain Patch-It at all cons from now on.
Every con needs a squad of these guys.
Cookie in a milk cup.
I DONT UNDERSTAND THIS PICTURE AT ALL